While in middle school, I met a lovely girl who caught my attention with her great sense of humor, beauty, and smile. However, after some time, she made it clear multiple times that she wasn’t interested in me. Despite this, I was too naive and continued to put her first, hoping she would eventually change her mind.
The day I hoped she would change her mind never came, and I had to move on. Looking back, this is one of my biggest regrets because of how much time and energy I spent pursuing somebody who didn’t like me.
Reflecting on this tragedy, I realized how common this is today. Many people, especially men, are stuck on one person, thinking they’re the best person they’ve ever met. As a result, it might cause some to develop an unhealthy obsession, prioritizing somebody who doesn’t care about them over their own life and health.
If you find yourself overly obsessed over another person, you could be experiencing oneitis or obsessive love disorder. Putting too much emphasis on someone who isn’t reciprocating the same energy back is unhealthy and detrimental to your mental health.
Today, we uncover why you should abstain from relationships and remain single until the time is right.
1. More time to yourself
Dating wastes time if we’re pursuing somebody who isn’t even a perfect match. If we’re chasing someone we know deep down isn’t the perfect one, we’re wasting so much time and energy texting, setting up dates, and meeting up.
Instead of investing time into pointless relationships, we should allocate this time to our personal growth. Doing so would allow us to achieve goals and ambitions. Additionally, we become more attractive and happy dating partners because of the growth we’ve experienced.
2. Less stress and worry
By remaining single, you distance yourself from the fear, envy, jealousy, and stress of modern-day relationships. A single life might even save you from wasting years in an unhealthy and toxic relationship.
A study by Liesel Heinrich and Eleonora Gullone found that loneliness causes humans to express negative emotions toward themselves, such as self-hate and low self-esteem.
Although intimate relationship cures loneliness, we can discover peace and learn to love ourselves more by remaining single. To someone having been in numerous relationships, being single allows you to make your own decisions without stressing about your partner’s judgment.
3. More likely to find a loving partner
As stated before, if we use the time now to work on ourselves, we become more appealing in the eyes of our future spouse. The months and years we spend improving all areas of our lives will be revealed to our partners, making them even more attracted to us.
Everybody has something they can improve on. It could be their career, physical health, skillset, and personal business. Instead of wasting time moving from partner to partner, start improving yourself, and your soulmate will eventually walk into your life.
Here are some great habits you can do to kickstart your transformation journey.
4. Saves money
Depending on your financial position, buying flowers, dates, and gas to drive around the city isn’t cheap. It’s not easy living a lonely life, but it’s also not living with very little money in your bank account.
If you’re in a state of financial instability, there should be no reason why you’re offering someone on a date. Instead of using this money to please them, invest it and set yourself up for financial success.
5. Teaches you how to be independent
There will be a day when we’re six feet deep underground, lying in a coffin, with nobody but ourselves. Mastering independence is critical in life because you can experience growth for yourself and learn to become less reliant on others.
When you’re independent, you’re in your bubble. You learn new skills and become responsible as a way of adapting to isolation. Being self-reliant increases confidence and self-love since you’re accomplishing so much.
6. Prevents you from becoming overly-attached
Being overly attached to someone is one of the worst potent diseases you could develop. At first, you think there’s no problem with thinking about your crush, but eventually, it grows. It grows to the point where you’re having trouble getting them off your mind, gradually affecting your mental well-being.
Having an obsession over someone can quickly become unhealthy, as it can quickly lead to jealousy, stress, and anger. We attach ourselves to someone so much that we jeopardize our health and well-being in return.
7. Saves you from toxicity and abuse
When you meet someone for the first time, you only get a sliver into their life and personality. After knowing them for some time, you could determine if that person is worth holding onto.
By remaining single, you decrease the chances of meeting someone you’ll later regret. Despite a woman’s gorgeous appearance, a woman can be one of the worst manipulators, liars, and cheaters you’ve ever met. Prevent your chances of meeting someone you’ll later regret by temporarily abstaining from relationships.
Conclusion
We’re all meant to experience life together and don’t deserve to experience life alone. However, sometimes being alone for a temporary amount of time is the best thing we can do for ourselves. It allows us to recuperate, find inner peace, and focus on our ambitions. If you’re still young, avoid stressing over relationships and create meaningful memories with friends and family.
For ways to make a relationship last, read here.
